5 Ways To Earn Your Children's Trust

How To Get Your Child To Trust You

New babies are our pride and joy. Then they grow up. Your relationship with your kids will change and develop as they mature. Hence, it's crucial to build a trusting relationship with your kids while they're young and nurture it carefully as they grow.

Trust is a two-way street. Children and teenagers need to show their parents that they're trustworthy by following their parents' rules. This goes back to acting as expected, which is the basis for trust and respect. But, parents need to show they can also be trusted. Learn how to earn your children's trust as you read on.

1Express Your Unconditional Love For Them

Stress the fact that you'll love your children, no matter what. Children and teens need to know that they have your unconditional love. Go ahead and tell them, "No matter what you do, I'll always love you. That will never change. I may not like what you do, and there may be consequences for those actions, but my love for you will never change."

Trust is a major building block when it comes to the parent-child relationship. It is especially true as your children age and then become teenagers. You want to know that the trust you have in them isn't misplaced, but you want them to know that they can trust you, as well.

2Keep The Lines Of Communication Open

Ask open-ended questions, so you can learn to understand each other's perspective. You may want to have a family meeting where you discuss the family's rules and boundaries. Also, consider the consequences of overstepping these rules, as well.

Children want to trust their parents. However, parents still need to earn their children's trust. To do this, you must treat your child with respect, follow through on promises, and enforce household rules. Your child needs to know that you'll always speak truthfully to them and be reliable.

3Explain The Pros Of Having Your Trust

Give your children real reasons why being trustworthy is to their advantage. For example, your child may ask to spend the night at a friend's house. If they maintain a trusting relationship with you, you may be more willing to allow that privilege.

4Provide A Roadmap For Success

Trust is broken when one person in a relationship doesn't act in the way the other thinks they should. This could be a teenager who sneaks out at night to go to a party. It could just as easily be a parent who stops coming to a teen's sporting events for no apparent reason. In either case, trust is broken because of a difference in expectations.

How will your children know if they're meeting your expectations if you never tell them what they are? Explain to them that skipping homework, talking back, nasty attitudes, and slamming doors will erode your trust. On the other hand, finishing chores, doing their homework, speaking to you with respect, and calling in to ask you about a change in plans will go a long way to building trust.

5Give Your Child Positive Reinforcement

Give your children positive reinforcement when they do something right. Show your appreciation for completing chores on time or doing more than expected. Reward them with an extra half-hour of fun when they're out because they've shown you that they can be trusted.

Trust is so important between a parent and child. These hints can teach you how to build a trusting relationship with your child, but the work is still up to you. Keep talking to your kids, expect the best from them, and you may find that they rise above your expectations.

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Jackie Wing

Jackie Wing is an Alaska native, who enjoys snowboarding more than is probably socially acceptable. She lives in Anchorage with her two dogs Reese and Peanut, or as she likes to call them "Thing 1" and "Thing 2."