4 Ways To Face Stressful Events That Are Uncontrollable

How To Be Calm In A Stressful Situation

At some point in your life, you've no doubt how to deal with a situation that was out of your control. Whether it's a car accident, financial difficulties, or another challenge, these events cause stress and frustration, which can harm your health and mental outlook on life. Learning how to cope with events you can't control will help keep you in a positive frame of mind and alleviate your stress. Follow these four ways to face stressful events that are out of your control.

1Get Down And Pray

Consider this serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference." The words of this prayer exemplify the solution to a problem that plagues all of us. Once you've come to terms with the fact that you can control only your actions and reactions, you can begin to find peace of mind.

2Know What You Can And Can't Control

Worrying about the people or events in your life that you can't control can cause all kinds of stress-related health problems, such as angina, high blood pressure, and sleeping difficulties. If you need to feel more in control of your life, focus on those things that you can physically change. Who you decide to accept as your friends and spend your time with, is something you can control. It may not be easy to meet new friends, but the opportunities are plentiful if you look for them.

Being around negative people can drag your attitude down since you adopt the mood of people around you. If you have people in your life who aren't encouraging you to fulfill your potential, find other people to surround yourself with. Having the support of people who believe in you will propel you toward reaching your lifelong goals.

3Live One Day At A Time

When you intentionally consider each day a gift, your struggles don't seem as dire. While life deals with some bad hands, such as death, divorce, and financial challenges; how you cope during these hardships can make you stronger or break you. When you purposely feel gratitude for each good moments within the day, you can start to genuinely accept your struggles as a path to a new beginning.

4Accept The Situation

One of the most stressful situations is coping with financial difficulties. Loss of a job often means having to give up things you've worked hard to acquire. If you're having a difficult time accepting that you have to cut expenses and give up things and comfort in life, even temporarily, it helps to remember that it could be worse. Be grateful for having your home and your health because many people in the world have neither. Once you know you can be happy with less, you can focus again on achieving your goals.

By accepting that you can't change some things, you'll become more powerful in changing the things that you do have control over. You'll free yourself from the negative thoughts and emotions that can stifle you into sad complacency. Use these tips to help you cope with the things that are out of your control, and you'll find peace, joy, and the passion for persevering through all challenges.

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Jackie Wing

Jackie Wing is an Alaska native, who enjoys snowboarding more than is probably socially acceptable. She lives in Anchorage with her two dogs Reese and Peanut, or as she likes to call them "Thing 1" and "Thing 2."