5 Tips On How You Can Deal With Criticism Positively

Guide To Handling Criticism Like A Pro

Criticism is a double-edged sword. It can improve you, but on the other hand, it can shatter your confidence if you allow it. Knowing how to deal with criticism is vital to improving yourself in both your professional and personal lives. So, how do you feel when someone criticizes you?

Maybe you've had someone criticize your work, effort, or personal aspects of your life. You may feel hurt or angry, and you may even become defensive. There are so many times in life when you have to deal with criticism that it's essential to learn how to deal with it. Certainly, you don't want someone else's opinion to prevent you from having a happy and productive life, right?

1Contemplate Before Reacting

The first step in dealing with criticism is to figure out whether it's worth considering. Sometimes, you may confuse personal attacks with criticism. They're definitely not the same!

There are two kinds of criticism: constructive criticism, which is intended to help us improve and keep communication open, and destructive criticism, which is used to humiliate and control. Whether you're dealing with criticism in the workplace, at home, or with friends, it's essential to be able to deal with critical comments. Your feelings will inevitably be hurt, so the first thing to do is give yourself a few minutes to process the information before reacting.

2Know The Reason Behind It

Take some deep breaths and determine why the criticism was delivered. Thinking before you react will help you avoid unnecessary conflict, pain, or embarrassment. If you discover there's no truth to the criticism, you may find it appropriate to use a technique called distracting, where you calmly acknowledge that you heard what the other person said. Don't become defensive or upset, just respect the statement and leave it at that.

3Acknowledge The Criticism

You can acknowledge the other speaker with a general response, such as "I appreciate you sharing your opinion" or "You might be right." Leaving an open end doesn't allow room for more argument. It will also put the other person at ease and may even allow you to change the subject.

4Accept Your Mistakes And Move On

One of the hardest things to do when you're criticized is to admit that it's true. You don't have to be overly apologetic. You can always say, "I'm sorry" or "It's my mistake" and move on. By admitting fault, you're taking ownership of the problem, and you're proving that you're a mature adult.

Once you've admitted your mistake, strive to get past the barrier, and heal the rift between you. When communicating, try your best not to use the word "but" when admitting the truth of the criticism. That puts stipulations on why you were wrong. Swallow your pride and go on.

5Request For A Detailed Feedback

If you're not sure, whether the criticism is justified or not, you may want to request more detailed feedback. This will not only help you gain more information but also allow the other person to clarify the facts. An example of this might be if someone tells you that your work is sloppy. By finding out their expectations, you can deliver what they're looking for instead of fumbling around trying to figure out what "sloppy" means.

Everyone has different expectations, and a simple adjustment might be all you need to resolve the criticism. If you take criticism too personally, you're letting someone else be in charge of your life! Don't let others rattle you, it's really not worth the energy or frustration. Remember, you can't control others, but you can only control yourself, so that means you have a choice in your response to criticism. You can ignore the criticism, use it as a motivator, or become upset and angry. Well, the choice is yours!

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John Quintana

John Quintana is a proud Cuban, a lifelong resident of Miami, Florida, where he lives surrounded by a loving family. When he's not writing, he spends his time either fishing or in the kitchen.