3 Ways To Steer Clear From Negative People Around You

Blocking The Negativity Around You

There's an old saying, "Birds of the same feather flock together." The reasoning behind this is that you tend to become like the people you hang out with. If you're around negative people, then you'll constantly be discouraged and depressed. Therefore, surround yourself with visionaries and those who can inspire and motivate you, so you can take action. Read on and learn the ways to avoid negative people around you.

1Listen To Your Intuition

Following your intuition can be an effective way of weeding out negative people, early on upon meeting them. Your intuition can be right most of the time. There are some body language signs to look out for when you meet new people. Here are some examples: getting a sick or uncomfortable feeling that forms in the pit of your stomach; having the hair on the back of your neck stands on end; your skin crawls and you feel jumpy and adverse to touch; your shoulder muscles knot up, and your throat and chest constrict. You may also feel a sense of pressure, agitation, or darkness, or if you feel a physical, mental, or emotional drain after meeting the individual.

These symptoms may be your body's way of telling you to stay clear of this person. You may leave their presence feeling depressed and discouraged because all you've heard is complaining. Naturally, this sucks the energy right out of you, but you can learn to read these signs early on, and you'll save yourself from becoming involved with a negative person. These people are toxic and will poison your mind with their negativity.

2Feel The Positive Vibes

Sometimes, you can tell someone is positive just by their outward appearance or the way they conduct themselves. Walking confidently with their head up or even smiling are signs that a person is in a positive mood. Some other indications of a positive person are more intuitive, such as you get a feeling of familiarity. As if you've known the person forever; you feel relaxed, calm, and safe, you breathe easier, you lean forward instead of crossing your arms defensively and withdrawing, you're at ease with the other person's touch, like hugs, handshake, and you leave their presence feeling energized and alive.

Just as negative people put out negative energy, positive people have positive energy. These people are nourishing and supportive. Your body can pick up on this, warn you, or encourage you depending on the situation.

3Seek Out Venues Of Positive People

How do we go about finding these positive people we wish to associate with? Much of the above responses are simply felt in our day-to-day associations. However, there are proactive steps we can take to align ourselves with positive people.

You can find a local community event, club, or group where people challenge themselves and encourage their members to be better people. They will help you set goals for yourself and then achieve them. Participate in online forums or organize your own positive mentoring group. Sometimes, it's impossible to completely avoid certain negative people (perhaps a boss or family member), but you can limit your relationship with them and seek out positive role models elsewhere.

The choices you make in life are yours alone. It's entirely in your power to choose who you are friendly with and whether you want to live a happy life or be miserable. If you feel too much negativity, take control of your life, and make some changes to eliminate the harmful sources. This will likely take some time, but making these changes will help improve your daily mood and remind you of the good things ahead.

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Jackie Wing

Jackie Wing is an Alaska native, who enjoys snowboarding more than is probably socially acceptable. She lives in Anchorage with her two dogs Reese and Peanut, or as she likes to call them "Thing 1" and "Thing 2."