When facing noise problems, many condo unit owners take it upon themselves to deal with the problem, but they usually avoid any confrontation with their neighbors. Things can go on, with the inconvenienced condo owner banging a broom handle on the hall to let the next door owners know that he is already getting fed up with the rowdiness. But, in some cases, this can worsen the problem - the act may annoy the noisy neighbors, and they may intentionally increase the noise level of the person who refused to speak with them about the issue; this does not solve the problem, and no apologies are made.
If you've had some trouble with boisterous neighbors before, then you are familiar with how it can be such a hassle. Confrontation is never the answer, and this can even lead to very disastrous situations. If you're living in a condo, you can expect the condominium association or board to deal with residents who violate certain house rules instead of going face to face with them. On the other hand, there are many ways to diffuse a potentially bad neighbor situation, and some of the most effective strategies are discussed below.
1Be Diplomatic With Rowdy Neighbors
It is acceptable to talk to your neighbor and tell him about his habit that's bothering you, but you must always remember to avoid aggression. So, talk to him like you would a close friend and don't make him feel like he's public enemy number one. This will be a huge challenge for you if this person has been getting on your nerves for quite a while already, but being diplomatic will help in reaching a more positive outcome.
Believe that your neighbor will listen to your complaint. Think about the possibility that he might be reasonable even if things don't turn out, as well as you expected. Remember that you are more likely to resolve the issue, and you'll avoid hostility and confrontations if you approach the problem with a helpful attitude rather than if you deal with it in a disrespectful, angry, and vengeful manner.
2Propose Helpful And Fair Solutions
When you approach your neighbor, be as friendly or as civil as possible even though you may be feeling a little bit irritated. Be helpful and give him a few suggestions as to how to solve the problem. To illustrate, you can recommend using a rug or thick carpets that can help muffle the noise, particularly in high-traffic areas or give him other easy and practical tips about how to reduce noise. You can ask your neighbor if it would be fine you give him a call whenever the noise becomes too much so that he can immediately employ measures to reduce annoying sounds. In case a pet, like a dog or a cat, is making the noise, give him the calling card of a good pet trainer who can discipline the animal.
3Avoid Having Face-To-Face Arguments
Perhaps you don't want to get into a confrontation with your neighbor, which is a prudent move. If this is so, what you can do initially is to examine the building rules or codes, as well as local and state laws, regarding your neighbor's disturbance. Once you discover something relevant to your neighbor's problem, copy or print out the info and slip the paper under your neighbor's door.
Be aware that a majority of U.S. states forbid noise or nuisances that go over a certain level. By reminding your neighbor about the rules, he may become more conscious about his actions or habits, and perhaps he'll stop making such loud noises. Still, you will likely need to communicate with your neighbor to resolve the issue. If so, then be as tactful as possible and don't be angry or confrontational when contacting this person via email, mail, messenger, phone call, and especially when meeting that individual in person.
4Have A Mediator
It's advantageous to have a third party who can evaluate both sides of the issue, and mediators or mediation groups best do this. Through the process of mediation, you can settle the problem with the assistance of a neutral party who has experience in helping people come to a resolution that's beneficial to both sides. Mediation services are affordable or even free, depending on which program or group you approach. Many retired judges also become mediators, and you can get in touch with them through the local bar organization. Check out the local court office or go online to find a group of mediators that can assist you.
5Understand The Value Of Numbers
In case if mediation is not an option and if your initial contact with the violator did nothing to solve the issue, perhaps it's time for you to talk to other neighbors who may also be suffering from the noise problem. As they say, there is strength in numbers; and the more complainants there are, the more likely the board will listen and act on the issue. In case the noisy neighbor reacts in a spiteful way, maybe it's best to take matters to court.
There are many ways to approach a troublesome neighbor, and you must choose the option that best suits your unique situation. It is a fact that some individuals are just too stubborn to change, and because of this, those who suffer from having noisy neighbors are prompted to move out instead. In case this is not an option that you wish to consider, you must be determined to find a solution to the problem. Yes, it can be quite a challenge, and some owners even end up learning to live with the noise instead of being in a constant battle with their dispassionate neighbors.